Wednesday, March 21

Definition

*FROM Wickipedia*

Friendship is a form of interpersonal relationship generally considered to be closer than association, although there is a range of degrees of intimacy in both friendships and associations. Friendship and association are often thought of as spanning across the same continuum and are sometimes viewed as weaknesses.

The study of friendship is included in the fields of sociology, social psychology, anthropology, philosophy, and zoology. Various academic theories of friendship have been proposed, among which are social exchange theory, equity theory, relational dialectics, and attachment styles.

Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating the following on a consistent basis:
- The tendency to desire what is best for the other
- Sympathy and empathy
- Honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one's counterpart
- Mutual understanding and compassion; ability to go to each other for emotional support
- Enjoyment of each other's company
- Trust in one another
- Positive reciprocity — a relationship is based on equal give-and-take between the two parties.
- The ability to be oneself, express one's feelings and make mistakes without fear of judgement.



The above was sent to me recently, after I've learned that someone else I trusted in friendship with secrets and stories, vulnerabilities and wrongs betrayed all that I told her. When will I learn?

Thursday, March 8

No Title

Only the brave know how to forgive; it is the most refined and generous pitch of virtue that human nature can arrive at. A coward never forgave; it is not in his nature.
-Laurence Sterne

Monday, March 5

Lesson Learned.... the Hard Way


When Someone walks away from you - Let them Go.
People who love you, and appreciate you for who you are;
Will stand true to you, through the Rain and Sunshine.
Through the Joy and Pain.

And will be there by your side - When the world turns Grey;
And their Unconditional Love, and Giving, will always hold you.
Because They Believe in, and Love - The True Colors of your Soul.

~ Kiran Shaikh, 2012

Thursday, February 23

The Secret to Candy Land Success

I've finally figured out the way to successfully win Candy Land. I just spent an hour playing the game (among others) with my almost five year old.

Don't go first.

I've just played 8 rounds of Candy Land with my daughter. Five of which, I went first, and I won. I'm not one of those moms that lets my kids win just to let them feel good. Besides, as she was setting up the game, I caught her stacking the deck, in her favor. (She's no dummy.)

After time number 5, I clued her in to my secret. Not surprisingly, she then wanted me to go first. And then I started losing and she started winning. Three wins was enough to boost her morale.

Then we went on to playing other games. Noah's Ark Memory. Rondo Vario Caterpillar (or calepitter, as she calls it.) The same tactic didn't work as well, but did work more often than not.

Makes you wonder... what will you win in life if you don't always have to be first?

Saturday, February 18

Not Worth the Price

I pay the price, still, everyday, in some way.
And, really, it wasn't worth it. So much just simply wasn't worth it.



"Slow Fade," by Casting Crowns

Be careful little eyes what you see
It's the second glance that ties your hands as darkness pulls the strings
Be careful little feet where you go
For it's the little feet behind you that are sure to follow

It's a slow fade when you give yourself away
It's a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
It's a slow fade, it's a slow fade

Be careful little ears what you hear
When flattery leads to compromise, the end is always near
Be careful little lips what you say
For empty words and promises lead broken hearts astray

It's a slow fade when you give yourself away
It's a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day

The journey from your mind to your hands
Is shorter than you're thinking
Be careful if you think you stand
You just might be sinking

It's a slow fade when you give yourself away
It's a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
Daddies never crumble in a day
Families never crumble in a day

Oh be careful little eyes what see
Oh be careful little eyes what you see
For the Father up above is looking down in love
Oh be careful little eyes what you see


Thursday, February 9

Running From and Running To



Also known as the difference between real friendship and cowardice. I am so glad that I have had the chance to truly experience both.